I'm feeling scared of rejection

Putting myself out there, whether for projects, new jobs or new relationships, scares the shit out of me. Rejection is not an option.

In the Moment

Rejection is scary, but it’s also totally normal.

 

Always ask for feedback, and remind yourself that there’s always another opportunity just around the corner.

Read

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

Brené Brown is an American professor, lecturer, podcast host, and author of what might just be your new favourite book.

 

Daring Greatly, focusses on changing our perceptions around vulnerability. Often seen as a weakness or something we’d try to fight, Daring Greatly reframes vulnerability as a strength, enabling us to love and accept our true selves and enjoy experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives.

 

We’ve been told all of BrenĂ©’s other books are fab, too, so read ’em all. Oh, and she’s got a Netflix special out as well, loosely based on Daring Greatly, called The Call to Courage.

Listen

The Struggle Bus Podcast

Best friends Kate and Sally discuss literally everything under the sun – mental health, work, fridges, spoons, scientology, the list goes on.

 

They also answer listener-submitted questions in every episode, which is a nice touch.

 

Podcasts are so insanely popular nowadays, that it’s easy to miss gems like this one – discover some more of our mood-boosting podcast favourites by heading to the resources section and searching for ‘podcast’.

Watch

Life Lessons from 100-Year-Olds

Meet Cliff, Emelia, and John. They’re all made it past the 100-year-old mark, and they’ve got a few observations to share about the years they’ve lived.

 

Learn how to appreciate life and let go of guilt and sadness in this short interview exploring the lives of three centenarians.

Do

Take Note of Your Breakthroughs

A handy technique we’ve used before, to remind ourselves of how great we really are.

 

Write down a list of all your positive, breakthrough moments, and then write down the times you failed or were rejected. You’ll start to notice a pattern between the two, often pointing toward the success you found due to the failures you’ve endured.


It’s ok to feel sad or angry about rejection, but you can learn from these moments to grow as a person and to spur you on to your next success.

Talk

Talk to Someone Familiar

It feels good to speak your feelings, but it can be hard to do.

 

Reach out to someone you know. A colleague, a friend or a family member. Then get your frustration or your worries off your chest.

 

Keeping these feelings in often just makes things worse, but talking about them can help you rationalise the issues and either address or move forward from them.