I'm feeling scared of rejection

Putting myself out there, whether for projects, new jobs or new relationships, scares the shit out of me. Rejection is not an option.

In the Moment

Rejection is scary, but it’s also totally normal.

 

Always ask for feedback, and remind yourself that there’s always another opportunity just around the corner.

Read

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

Brené Brown is an American professor, lecturer, podcast host, and author of what might just be your new favourite book.

 

Daring Greatly, focusses on changing our perceptions around vulnerability. Often seen as a weakness or something we’d try to fight, Daring Greatly reframes vulnerability as a strength, enabling us to love and accept our true selves and enjoy experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives.

 

We’ve been told all of BrenĂ©’s other books are fab, too, so read ’em all. Oh, and she’s got a Netflix special out as well, loosely based on Daring Greatly, called The Call to Courage.

Listen

The Argument Podcast

Another good podcast from The New York Times, pitting two or three hosts of varying political persuasions against each other to argue their case.

 

Keeps you in the loop with American politics, might get you a bit mad, and helps to see things from varying perspectives.

Watch

How to Get Over Rejection

A soothing, 4-minute video exploring how to allow yourself to feel sadness about a rejection of any kind, and then how to overcome and move forward from it.

 

Rejection feels shit, in whatever form. And it’s ok for it to feel shit. But by taking on the suggestions offered in this video, you’ll be one step closer to being able to understand and grow from your experiences.

 

Great stuff from the guys at The School of Life.

Do

Accept Failure

Accept the possibility of failure, and accept that it’s ok to fail. Once failure is ‘OK’ in your mind, and you’ve accepted it’s a possibility, it will seem much easier to manage. Some of our favourite projects have been riddled with setbacks, but if they hadn’t happened, then chances are those projects wouldn’t be our favourites anymore.

 

Failure isn’t inherently bad, and it’s a fact of life. Thanks to failure, we know how to improve and move on.

 

Look at failure as a learning curve and an opportunity to improve, not a daunting setback.

Talk

Talk to Someone Familiar

It feels good to speak your feelings, but it can be hard to do.

 

Reach out to someone you know. A colleague, a friend or a family member. Then get your frustration or your worries off your chest.

 

Keeping these feelings in often just makes things worse, but talking about them can help you rationalise the issues and either address or move forward from them.