My fuse is short at the moment - I can't handle certain people or situations without being worried I'll snap or withdraw.
In the Moment
Take a deep breath, and try to re-focus your feeling of frustration towards something else practical.
It’s actually a lot of effort being pissed off, so think about how this negative energy could be turned into positive action.
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
Brené Brown is an American professor, lecturer, podcast host, and author of what might just be your new favourite book.
Daring Greatly, focusses on changing our perceptions around vulnerability. Often seen as a weakness or something we’d try to fight, Daring Greatly reframes vulnerability as a strength, enabling us to love and accept our true selves and enjoy experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives.
We’ve been told all of Brené’s other books are fab, too, so read ’em all. Oh, and she’s got a Netflix special out as well, loosely based on Daring Greatly, called The Call to Courage.
The Argument Podcast
Another good podcast from The New York Times, pitting two or three hosts of varying political persuasions against each other to argue their case.
Keeps you in the loop with American politics, might get you a bit mad, and helps to see things from varying perspectives.
‘Boop My Nose’ on Instagram
Amongst the thousands of animal-themed Instagram accounts out there, one stands unrivalled. It’s called Boop My Nose, and it’s honestly everything you could ever need.
A whole account of dog noses. Literally so many pictures of happy doggo noses.
Go and drown in them instead of sadness.
That guy who whistles at the back of the office really getting to you? That looooooong meeting you think you shouldn’t be a part of swallowing up your day? We’ve all been there.
If you’re already feeling worn out and overwhelmed, the last thing you need is someone or something else making it even harder to focus. But by letting those thoughts get to you, you’re adding another thing to the list that’s going to distract you and makes you feel even more frustrated.
Just pause, and either address the issue or make the decision to move on.
Practice patience with the disagreeable aspects of people, situations and projects in your life. The world is tolerant of your behaviour and decisions, so try and replicate this on a personal level, too.
Ask Your Grandma for Advice
It’s a well known, scientifically proven* fact, that nobody can do wrong in their grandma’s eyes. Every grandchild should be aware of this.
So, if you feel scared or anxious, grannies tend to come in handy – give ’em a ding. They’re wise, they’re experienced, and they love a good chinwag.
You can also volunteer your time to speak with elderly people over the phone through various charities, helping to make them feel less alone whilst also giving you the opportunity to ask them for advice too. A win-win situation we think.
At Nalla, some of us have volunteered with Age UK before to do just this, via their Telephone Befriender scheme.
*not quite scientifically proven.