I'm afraid of the unexpected
Whatever it is I'm aiming for, I'm constantly thinking of how it could go wrong - it's hard to remain positive when I'm unsure of what the future holds.
In the Moment
You can’t predict the future, so instead of worrying about things possibly turning out differently to how you expect, just focus on what you’re doing in the moment.
Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy
A go-to book for decades now, this therapeutic read helps improve your way of thinking and avoid ‘cognitive distortion’ (aka brain farts).
Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy discusses ways to recognise what causes your moods to change, how to address negative feelings, deal with guilt, handle hostility and criticism, build self-esteem and much more.
Written by David Burns.
The Calmer You Podcast
Hypnotherapist Chloe Bretheridge is on a mission to calm your brain down.
Have a listen to her massive catalogue of episodes, featuring some fantastic interviewees plus suggestions and hacks for building confidence, being happier and ‘quieting your inner critic’.
Guests on the podcast come from the world of mental health, personal development, nutrition, medicine and many more – so there should hopefully be lots of these episodes that you find useful in some way or another.
How to Challenge Your Negative Beliefs
Identify the negative beliefs you have about yourself, then challenge them. Instead of just letting them wash over you, confront them head-on.
Try writing down a few things that you know challenge these negative beliefs – could be anything from something nice someone has said about you, to a positive personal trait – and stick this list somewhere you’ll see it.
Keep adding to this list. It’ll get really long. And it’ll feel really good.
You could even frame your list, the opportunities are truly endless.